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Playground Bully

 My kids play across the street at the school playground a lot in the summertime. It's not the school my kids go to so I don't know many of the kids. We've had a few small instances before but nothing horrible. Someone tried to take my son's scooter and basketball. I scared em off and same with a kid who was swearing at the kids. But now we have a problem. There is a Grade A bully. He started by breaking my son's water gun on the pavement. Threw his baseballs on the school roof. And more recently punched him in the mouth.  I just found out about all of this when he tried to hide his fat lip telling me he had a cold sore. My son is 8. My daughter is 10 and said the same kid has been mean to her and taken or broken her things. Apparently all the kids they know at the playground are too scared to stand up to him, except for 1 6th grader who isn't always there. The bully is 7 btw. So now its my turn to confront him. His mother is never around. Otherwise I would just talk to her. My mother and my FIL said I should just call the cops and really scare him straight. But I don't know if I wanna go that far. What would you do?


I'm all for independance but safety trumps independance. I may want my 4yo to walk without having to have his hand held, but if he's the type to run into the street I'd hold it. Independance comes in baby steps and regardless of age they will need their hands held through certain situations.

We had a neighbor kid picking on everybody last year. He lives right next door so there isn't much we can do about him being around. If he was outside and my chidren wanted to leave the porch, I sat out there with them. If I couldn't, they couldn't leave the back yard or the porch. If he did something wrong, I corrected him (politely, like I would my own). "Ryan, watch what you're doing. You're going to lose friends if you treat them that way". If he didn't knock it off, I made my children stop playing with him. After a while he knocked it off. He's actually a really great kid now and we spend a lot of time with him.
that sounds fine and dandy but around here when you correct a kid that doesn't know you, they laugh or even worse, swear at you. Especially when their parents are nowhere to be found. That is far from anything I would think to do honestly. We are talking about some older kids, from 6-13. My biggest concern is can I find out where he lives to talk to his mother. The only reason it worked when I had problems the other 2 times is that I proved the stuff the kid had taken was mine. Getting caught always stops a kid from doing it again. And with the swearing... I think that kid was there once to watch a tee-ball game. Not a regular.
If the parents are no where to be found, what makes you think they'll do anything other than punish their child at home once they know? Then, the bully resents your child for getting them in trouble and the bullying gets worse once they're allowed back at the park. And since your child now knows telling you won't solve the problem, it'll only pause it while the kid's in trouble, they won't tell you if/when it happens again.

By placing your trust in the hands of this mother (which you already can't trust to even properly supervise her child), you're going to lose the trust your child has in you to protect them.

Its a neighborhood playground. Most of the parents including myself just let the kids go play and don't babysit them, unless they have younger kids. I can see them out my window. So I don't count that she is not there meaning she's a horrible mother.