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When is punishment too harsh?

My son who is about to be 8 in a couple of weeks, has been getting in a lot of trouble. He is about to be kicked from the bus for the remainder of the year, which will require him switching schools because I can't drive him. He just got a write up today for acting out in class. I can't get him to listen to me at home half the time. I have tried everything. Spanking, time out, screaming, talking, taking away special items, grounding from xbox and computer, extra chores, even grounding to his room. Its not like he is bored at school. He goes to a school for academically gifted children. He has been a problem child since day 1 and this is just too much. We are considering canceling his birthday. No gift from us. No cake. Family can do what they please. But I feel like giving him a cake and gift will be like rewarding him. And his behavior has been anything but deserving. We have tried rewarding him for good behavior as well. And that doesn't work. Please Help!! Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.

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Im not trying to diagnose your son. He may still have ADHD, but with different manifestations. My daughters problems were as a result of difficulty modulating her emotions, but theres a whole range of other ways it can show itself.

You seem to take a lot of his behavior personally. I guarantee you that its not something he is doing to piss you off. There is something at play here, and your best bet is to get evaluated so you know exactly whats on the table.
Well I think its a little irrational to suggest to someone you don't know on the internet that their child may need a neurologist. I am sure that if I take him in to a therapy group they can help me from there.
I think that finding out whats at the root of the behavior is the best next step, if you have tried and failed at a variety of discipline models at home. That means getting an evaluation.

The best evaluations are done by neuropsychs or pediatric neurologists.

I have never suggested that your son has any condition at all. I, among several others on this post, have suggested that getting an eval to find out if he does is a smart next move.