I'll be watching an 8yo and a 11yo for the summer. Both girls. They're my cousins girls and I haven't seen them in a couple of years because they moved out of state. I babysat them for the summer when they were 3 and 6, so I know how to handle them. But, my husband reminded me that the one girl is an 11yo preteen, who may possibly be into boys by now. Also, I have a 5yo and an 8yo, so I'm not used to her age at all. I had this problem when I watched them before. I didn't know how to handle a 6yo at the time. I had no idea what I could/couldn't allow her to do and basically made her stay inside all summer because I didn't want her out there alone. And I couldn't handle taking two 3 year olds and a 6 month old outside all the time. I admit, I was in way over my head back then, especially when you add on the PPD I had.
So, this time around I want to be prepared. How do I handle an almost 12 year old girl? Aside from her age, she's used to being alone and being allowed to do whatever she wants, as her mother leaves them alone from 4am to 11am 5 days a week and while she goes out drinking 1-2 nights a week. Her mother's also the type to encourage them them to be sexy. So, her interest in being sexy and being around boys may be heightened.
How much freedom can I give this little girl? I remember being 12 and I was allowed to pretty much go wherever I pleased. But I'm pretty nervous, as we have a few boys, around her age, in the neighborhood that are also allowed to go wherever they want.
Keeping her busy outside of the house isn't too much of an option. I don't have a lot of money to take 4 children out of the house on a daily basis to keep them busy. I can take the others to the playground, but I don't think she'll be as interested in that. I also have season passes to our local amusement park for my children. I can have my aunt (their grandmother, who they'll be staying with for the summer) get them season passes also, but then I have to worry about an almost 12 year old at an amusement park. I'd image at that age, I'd let my own children run off with their friends and have them meet me back at a certain place/time, but I'm not too sure I could do that with her.
Really, I'm not too sure about any of it. So, again, what the hell do you do with a preteen in the summer? How much freedom should I allow her?
She lived here in Pennsylvania her whole life, until about 3 years ago, when she moved down to Florida. She'll be staying with her grandmother for the summer and I'll be watching her from about 7am to 4pm monday-friday while her grandmother works. She does have friends in the area, but I'll have to discuss with her grandmother what she is/isn't allowed to do with them.