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Playground Bully

 My kids play across the street at the school playground a lot in the summertime. It's not the school my kids go to so I don't know many of the kids. We've had a few small instances before but nothing horrible. Someone tried to take my son's scooter and basketball. I scared em off and same with a kid who was swearing at the kids. But now we have a problem. There is a Grade A bully. He started by breaking my son's water gun on the pavement. Threw his baseballs on the school roof. And more recently punched him in the mouth.  I just found out about all of this when he tried to hide his fat lip telling me he had a cold sore. My son is 8. My daughter is 10 and said the same kid has been mean to her and taken or broken her things. Apparently all the kids they know at the playground are too scared to stand up to him, except for 1 6th grader who isn't always there. The bully is 7 btw. So now its my turn to confront him. His mother is never around. Otherwise I would just talk to her. My mother and my FIL said I should just call the cops and really scare him straight. But I don't know if I wanna go that far. What would you do?

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Meantime, get your kids into some martial arts classes...

Speaking as someone who was bullied himself, it's unfortunate, but yes, your kid needs to hit back.  Just.  Once.

Remember, bullied are actually cowards.  They seek power and control because it provides them with a sense of order; something they don't have order in their home lives.

I'll tell you a story:

The whole neighbourhood decided one day to gang up on me.  I was the new kid and a nerd.  I was also one of those kids who carried all his books in his bookbag.  Anyway, one of the bigger neighbourhood bullies tried to jump me on the way home from the bus stop.  I turned and threw my book-laden bag into his stomach.  Hard.  He went down.  The next one came at me.  He suffered a blow to the solar plexus from my right kneecap, and a repeat blow combined with a blow to the back of his neck.  Took him ten seconds to resume breathing.

I was eight.

No one bullied me again.
I have given my blessing to knock this kid out. And my son has been in tackle football for 2 yrs, going on his 3rd in the fall. You would think he wouldn't be afraid. He's been getting tackled by 90 lb kids since he was 6! But I think he is. =(